S3XLESS MARRIAGE: 1-2
She came in to the bedroom with her transparent night gown wearing a romantic perfume.
Nobody was left at the house after a long day of felicitations and congratulations for the success of their wedding.
Who would have thought Sis Rose could get married after several attempts failed at the altar of disappointment and betrayal.
Sis Rose had been into 8 relationships that never led to marriage. Getting suitors was never her problem but getting to the aisle was never realistic until she met Bro EMMY.
Bro EMMY was a well-known brother in the choir and the dream husband of every lady as he seemed to be an example of a true Christian.
Bro Femi dated her for 18 months and jilted her because she refused him sex before marriage. Bro Ifeanyi left her after a year of relationship when he went for National Youth Service Corps at Enugu where he found Sis Chinyere.
Bro Austin never gave any reason for quitting their relationship of 4 months. The history of Sis Rose’s relationship journey was heartbreaking as she had dated 8 guys in 14 years.
‘Bro EMMY is going to leave like others, why put in the remaining pieces of my heart?’, she thought. On her traditional wedding, she fainted twice for unbelief and shock that Bro EMMY did not leave like
It was a well-celebrated and well-attended wedding. Members of the choir and ushering team added colour to the day as one of their own were the celebrants of the day.
The joy and excitement that Sis Rose was leaving singles fellowship of the church at 43 made the pastor overjoyed, so much that he made Sis Rose’s wedding one of the best since the inception of the church. Family and friends were not left out as they all created scenes to add colour to the day.
Family and friends stayed back and never wanted to leave them alone even at the late hour of the night. Sis Rose had jokingly told her friends to leave to allow them start their honeymoon and everyone laughed.
‘Madam are you driving us?’ And they laughed again. In all these Bro EMMY was indifferent as to
whether they left or not.
At about 11:03pm, she joined him in the bedroom ready for action of the moon. This is the day she has been looking forward to; a day she wanted to be grabbed, squeezed, cuddled and made love to. A day she will have sex and not see it as sin against God.
‘Dear, I am all yours now. Do to me what wish. I am not
wearing anything underneath just to give you easy access. ‘Before we are carried away with the joy of our wedding let’s thank God first for all his has done for us’, Bro EMMY replied. And the prayer of thanksgiving turned to intercessory prayers and then to warfare prayers.
After 40 minutes Bro EMMY was still praying. A prayer that was already getting Sis Rose pissed up. How can we turn our honeymoon to a prayer meeting?
She thought within herself.
She couldn’t stop the prayer meeting because the tempo of the prayers increased by the minute.
At about 12:29am she dosed off and went into a deep sleep. That night they missed the first flight! Before Sis
( Rose) could wake up by 6:30am, Bro EMMY was already dressed up to meet an appointment for 7am in order to secure bus ticket for some of their guests who were slated to go with the first bus. ‘Where are you going to this early that you are already dressed up?’
she quarreled her husband. ‘But we didn’t make love last night being our first night together. Before you go out this morning, you must make love to me.’ Dear, I am sorry that cannot happen now as I need
to meet up for this appointment by 7am. I will make it up to you when I come back.
Sis Rose was not going to take no for an answer that morning. She jammed the door and held the keys “You are not going out this morning until you make love to me”! She called the pastor, “Hello sir, you need to make to our house now or else….” The pastor quickly diverted from his way to his office to their house.
warrant this distress call from the newest couple?’ he thought within himself.
To be continued…
Would I supervise your spiritual life and also supervise your sexual life? Sexuality in marriage does not contaminate spirituality.
Bro EMMY why have you not touched your wife? I am your pastor and I have been sleeping with my wife for more than 20 years now.
Prayer cannot replace sex in marriage. You are now married and licensed to have sex. Making love to your wife is no more a sin.’
‘I know it is possible you are a virgin but today virginity is no longer profitable. If you don’t know how to do it, I am here to each you. You can ask me any question on sex.
Sis Rose is now yours and by my authority, her parents authority and the authority of heaven you can kiss her, romance her and sleep with her as many times as is convenient for both of you. The way you rush your first meal after a long chain fasting is the same way I expect you to rush your wife.
If there’s any issue, you can confide in me. ”Thank you daddy, we shall do the needful as you have counselled’, Bro
EMMY said. After seeing the Pastor off to the other side of the road where his car was parked, the Pastor turned to the couple and said, ‘Sis Rose ensure you call me later to let me know how everything goes. Bye! Bye!
When they arrived back at their apartment, Bro EMMY begged his wife to let him sort out and discharge all their guests so they could have uninterrupted time together. ‘Let’s do a quick one before you go, when you come back we can relax and have a nice time together.
‘Why are you in hurry to have sex Sis
Rose, sorry dear? How long will it take me to sort out our guests that you can’t wait? Where is the self-control they’ve been teaching us about in church? Are we married because of sex or to fulfill God’s purpose for our lives?
This is almost 24 hours we have been married, we have not discussed or done
anything reasonable than sex. Must we have sex immediately after our wedding? Will the sex run away if we don’t do it today? Why are you so particular about sex over other things that can add value to our lives and marriage. If we don’t do it today, we can do it tomorrow.’
Sis Rose became worried and highly agitated at this time. Is there anything he is hiding from me? She thought! This is a lacuna of God’s law. *”Marriage is honourable in all, and bed undefiled”.* She questioned the law of God with hundreds of questions.
I have kept the bed undefiled all these years, would I still stay away from the bed after marriage?
Even if he is not going to make love to me, why won’t he kiss me, hug me, caress me or even give peck. I want to feel like a woman but my man is a shadow of a real man.
I will not allow him go out today, the neighbours must hears us. I am going to make noise about this until third parties come to my rescue. This is no more spirituality but stupidity. ‘Bro EMMY you are going nowhere until you perform your marital duty on your wife. No sex no going out today.
If you step outside there, by the time you come back you won’t meet me in this house again. You can’t be more spiritual than the pastor, you can’t be more catholic than the pope.’
‘Sis Rose this is the work of the devil and we must not permit it.
My spirit tells me the devil wants to capitalize on this small issue to cause problems at beginning of our marriage. We must not allow our guests to spend one more night in that hotel or else our bill will be heavy.
let me go and settle them and I shall give you what you want. ‘You will have to choose between your guests and your wife today,’ Sis Rose replied him.
All the stories I have heard from my married friends on their first night are fantastic. This is a day I have patiently waited for. Why is mine like this? And tears rolled from her eyes down her cheeks.
‘Sis Rose, are you crying? Why are you crying? Okay, sit down let me tell you why I have not touched you since yesterday
To be continued…